if i look at the way i've run my freelance jobs from a commercial point of view, i've definitely been on the losing end. i say yes to everything in a most compliant way, without much thought. i don't get the basis of manipulation(sub/conscious). it's such a waste of time. i guess the reality is that you just have to wise up! the main concern is that i don't want these petty issues to affect my drive for doing what i do. it's been a rather emotional week reflecting on my own naivety in dealing with people i work with.